Alright.. Here is some background info.
I have a 5 year old daughter with my 2nd ex-wife. Her mom left he when she was about 6 months old and basically came in and out of her life for the past 4 years. Now her mom has moved states and never comes around and never visits. She did live with her mom for about 6 months while I was working a crazy shift and did not have access to babysitting.
I am now married with wife number 3, the only one that matters , and we are experiencing problems with her that I've never seen before. Even before I was married. These problems did not start until after I got my daughter back and have been getting progressively worse. She is no stranger to my wife as I was dating her for 4 years and has always been here for us.
Here are the problems that I am experiencing with my daughter.
1. She refuses to listen to either myself or my wife.
2. She believes that anything we say to the kids, in general, doesn't apply to her and will not do anything unless we directly say it to her. Ex. We say, "Go clean your room." She will just sit there and stare at us blankly.
3. She refuses to eat and when she does eat, she forces herself to throw up unless it is some crap she wants to eat. We do not believe in finding out kids junk food and apparently that is what my daughter is used to since she lived with her mother.
4. She cries about anything and everything. If we tell her to do something that she doesn't want to do, she cries.
The thing I do not understand the most is that she only does this with my wife and I. We just recently stayed at the in-laws and she acted like a normal kid. She ate and drank everything she was given, she listened to what she was told to do, and she didn't cause a single problem. The moment we get her back the problems started up again and have since gotten worse.
Any ideas or suggestions on what we can try to do to fix this problem?? We are going out of our mind and are very miserable right now..
I have a 5 year old daughter with my 2nd ex-wife. Her mom left he when she was about 6 months old and basically came in and out of her life for the past 4 years. Now her mom has moved states and never comes around and never visits. She did live with her mom for about 6 months while I was working a crazy shift and did not have access to babysitting.
I am now married with wife number 3, the only one that matters , and we are experiencing problems with her that I've never seen before. Even before I was married. These problems did not start until after I got my daughter back and have been getting progressively worse. She is no stranger to my wife as I was dating her for 4 years and has always been here for us.
Here are the problems that I am experiencing with my daughter.
1. She refuses to listen to either myself or my wife.
2. She believes that anything we say to the kids, in general, doesn't apply to her and will not do anything unless we directly say it to her. Ex. We say, "Go clean your room." She will just sit there and stare at us blankly.
3. She refuses to eat and when she does eat, she forces herself to throw up unless it is some crap she wants to eat. We do not believe in finding out kids junk food and apparently that is what my daughter is used to since she lived with her mother.
4. She cries about anything and everything. If we tell her to do something that she doesn't want to do, she cries.
The thing I do not understand the most is that she only does this with my wife and I. We just recently stayed at the in-laws and she acted like a normal kid. She ate and drank everything she was given, she listened to what she was told to do, and she didn't cause a single problem. The moment we get her back the problems started up again and have since gotten worse.
Any ideas or suggestions on what we can try to do to fix this problem?? We are going out of our mind and are very miserable right now..